Spoiler alert: Postpartum isn't all sunshine and rainbows. Between leaks, pain, and hormonal roller coasters, here are 8 realities that aren't always discussed:
1. The layers 👶
We expect it for the baby, but much less so for ourselves… Yes, at the maternity ward, you also wear your own diapers. Why? Because postpartum bleeding is often heavier than a period, and regular sanitary products aren't enough. Welcome to the wonderful world of the postpartum period!
2. The trenches
Did they tell you that contractions stop after childbirth? That's a lie. Afterpains , those uterine contractions that help the uterus return to its normal size, are very real. And spoiler alert : they get worse with each subsequent birth. The best part? They often occur during breastfeeding, thanks to the oxytocin released. Double whammy of pain...
3. Milk coming in 🍼
When our breasts go from a B cup to "watermelon-sized," welcome to the milk coming in! It's sudden, painful, and frankly not glamorous. Breastfeeding sometimes requires a real adjustment period... and a good bra!
4. The feeling of emptiness
The belly, which once held the baby, is now empty. The result? A feeling of insecurity, a dip in morale, and that soft, flabby sack of skin that makes you feel like you've just eaten a flan. It's one of the physical manifestations of the hormonal drop , so above all, be patient and kind to yourself.
5. Sexual sensations 👉 👌
Let's be honest: after giving birth, libido isn't necessarily at its peak . Between pelvic floor rehabilitation, a low mood, and very short nights, it can take time to get your desire back. But good news: some new mothers report even more intense orgasms right after giving birth! Thanks to hormones? (For once...)
6. Bleeding 🩸
Postpartum bleeding (hello vaginal discharge, hello bloody bleeding) can last from a few days to several weeks. Why? Because your uterus is returning to its normal position and expelling everything it needs to eliminate. And if it lasts for months, a check-up with your healthcare professional is recommended.
7. The crying 💧
Because we are proud to be mothers; Because we feel like terrible mothers. Because we don't have enough support; because we have too much support... In short, it's incredibly easy to cry because our hormones are in freefall. Between the hormonal drop, extreme fatigue, and the pressure to be the perfect new mom, hello baby blues! The smallest things can make you cry: an adorable onesie, a hurtful comment, or just because. But if it persists, beware of postpartum depression. Talk to your midwife, your doctor, or those close to you.
8. Leaks 💦
Laughing, coughing, sneezing… and bam, urinary incontinence ! It's the pelvic floor's big comeback, going haywire. Between a wobbly perineum and overflowing breast milk, it's a veritable fluid party. Luckily, pelvic floor rehabilitation is there to get everything back on track. Also, remember to discuss contraception with your midwife during your postpartum checkup, because yes, you can get pregnant again after giving birth, even without having your period return!
The postpartum ally: Vulv e Balm
Not everything is perfect after childbirth... BUT Vulva Balm is there to support you when you experience discomfort in the vulvar area. And that's already a lot!
FAQ - The questions we (always) don't dare to ask
What are the signs of postpartum depression?
Signs of postpartum depression include persistent sadness, extreme fatigue, sleep or appetite disturbances, difficulty bonding with the baby, and feelings of insecurity or inadequacy. Hopeless thoughts, or in severe cases, thoughts of harming oneself or the baby, may also occur.
If these symptoms last for more than two weeks, it is essential to talk to those around you and consult a midwife or healthcare professional for appropriate support and treatment.
When should I start perineal rehabilitation?
Perineal rehabilitation typically begins 6 to 8 weeks after childbirth . An assessment with a midwife will evaluate the condition of your perineum and suggest appropriate exercises to prevent urinary incontinence .
Is it possible to get pregnant quickly after giving birth?
Yes! Even without a return of menstruation , ovulation can resume very early. A discussion with a midwife or your doctor during your postnatal appointment is essential to choose the right contraception .
🎉 Expectant mothers, new mothers, young parents : if this article made you smile (or grimace), share it with those interested in the truth about postpartum!