How to Feed Your Libido in 6 Steps

1. Be prepared

The decrease in desire is normal – although disturbing – so we can let ourselves be alone for a while before panicking. We have the right to no longer have a libido or to have none, temporarily… or not! So we need to know if no longer having a libido makes you suffer. And why.
Rehabilitating your desire is first of all putting it back in your priorities, giving it back its place. You also have to agree to let go of this magical thought, that the desire that has gone will suddenly come back. To change things concretely, you have to decide when you consider that it is an important moment in your life. But if you (just) need to take a break, that's healthy and ok!

2. Identify what makes us feel good

First of all, you should not force yourself . Let's remove the unpleasant, stop the relationships that don't please you, let's not feed our sexuality for the sake of it... It doesn't work like that.

3. Find the right conditions

Without guilt and without panic, which only put pressure! Some moments in life, such as pregnancy, childbirth, hormonal variations, disabling pathologies… can be more difficult than others to encourage desire. So we make peace with ourselves and we give ourselves (a little) peace, the time to find the right moment.

4. Take time and take your time

We can't rush desire. It's important to have time to see how our body reacts, what excites it. To start, we can do a little self-exploration session to see what excites us and pleases us. Trying to understand how our arousal system works is fundamental to better orient ourselves towards (new) practices that excite us.

5. Find your own tools

Sex toys , erotic books or comics, ethical porn films, erotic podcasts , paintings, drawings, dances: anything that generates emotion feeds the libido. And there is no standard in the matter! Feeding on a daily basis gives more access to this part of our desire, and awakens our senses in a lasting way. So quickly, let's find our new hobby.

6. Value teamwork

Revaluing each other as a couple, prioritizing each other, helping each other, giving each other quality time… and above all, being two at the initiating the new direction we want to take is extremely important. Making an appointment for quality time as a couple may seem counterintuitive, and yet: when you have a multiple schedule, if you don't make an appointment, it's the couple who loses.
Massage, restaurant, cinema, going out, intimate and romantic sex… everything you want to escape for a while from managing children, work, home, stress.