The reasons why women fake it in bed
Faking it in bed: a more common behavior than you might think
When it comes to sexuality, women face a constant dilemma. If they openly express their sexual desires, society labels them as " Easy girls, " but if they remain silent, they are perceived as being too... " stuck " . Over time, women have often had to conform to social norms , which has led to certain behaviors such as faking an orgasm during sexual intercourse.
Baûbo reveals the main reasons why a woman - heterosexual - might fake it in bed.
1. Social pressure surrounding orgasm
Heterosexual women may fake orgasms in bed because they feel pressured to reach climax. Faking it allows them to reassure their partner and show that they experienced pleasure.
2. To flatter the partner's ego
According to an IFOP survey for Femme Actuelle published in 2021, 37% of women believe that exaggerating their pleasure makes a man proud of himself . So, happy?
3. To avoid hurting your partner
In order to protect the guy's feelings (again!), 31% of women prefer to fake it so as not to hurt him.
4. To shorten sexual intercourse
32% of women prefer to fake an orgasm to end a sexual encounter rather than communicate with their partner...
When faking hides real discomfort
This brings us to another topic: ending sexual activity before reaching orgasm. While the reasons are numerous—loss of desire, insufficient communication, etc.— the feeling of discomfort during sex remains the most common cause.
Indeed, according to our study on vulvar pain, " Vulvar pain?" conducted by Baûbo and Vulvae (formerly Medfem), 91.8% of respondents stated that penetration is THE practice most linked to discomfort /pain and 67.6% of respondents stated that discomfort/pain impacts sexual life.
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Is it bad to fake it?
Faking it isn't inherently bad, but it's not ideal—especially for you. Why fake it? To stimulate your partner at your own expense? Sexuality is a shared experience (well, in this case, anyway). You don't fake it when you're alone. It's the relationship with your partner that raises this issue. And indeed, faking it can create communication problems in a long-term relationship. By faking it, you risk masking your true needs or dissatisfactions , which can prevent your partner from understanding what truly gives you pleasure, and you from truly experiencing it yourself! For a fulfilling relationship, it's best to address these topics with honesty and kindness to improve connection and intimacy. In short, being considerate of your partner's ego is good, but getting your own pleasure is better.