What is dirty talk?
"Dirty talk" in French consists of using words considered raw in order to increase desire and pleasure during sex.
While some people prefer silence, others get instantly aroused as soon as someone talks to them... What about you?
Adage
"Good dirty talk is the perfect blend of the complimentary and the degrading." Truly.
First, let's talk about it
Before you start dirty talking, it is essential to test the waters to find out what your partner likes.
Vulgarity in the wrong place in the middle of the act can be a shocking turn-off. So discuss it openly: “Is being called a slut a turn-on or a deal-breaker ?”
Go crescendo!
If you have never practiced dirty talk and are afraid to jump in, start with light phrases :
- You’re beautiful, I want you...
- Take me, I want to make you come...
Complimenting the body works really well too: I love your breasts, your butt, etc…
Set the tone
This is a basic rule that works very well for dirty talk : state what you are going to do. Right now, I’m going to... while doing it, is ultra simple but ultra hot.
The right delivery
Once you've started, don't neglect your intonation. Dirty talk that lacks confidence, is poorly articulated, or is said with too much vulgarity kills the mood.
You have to mean it and use the appropriate tone to set the pleasure on fire.
Bet on your mother tongue
The idea isn't to fake an accent, but if you are from another nationality, don't hesitate to use words from your native language to turn the other person on. Mamacita, I want you... Honestly, we love that exotic vibe.
Use your eyes
Want to add more desire? Look deep into their eyes and give them your best smoldering look while you whisper your naughty words... You'll see, it will change the mood.
Don't force it
There are those who prefer silence during sex, who hate being talked to, or worse: being forced to answer.
Dirty talk isn't a quiz, so to avoid flops, know how to express yourself while avoiding overly direct questions... That will prevent any awkward silences.
Express your pleasure
No need to go too far to turn someone on: embracing moans (especially for men, who are sometimes subject to a strange, silent inhibition...), is ultra sexy. So, no shame in the pleasure.
Keep your promises
And yes, dirty talk commits you in a way... Your language shouldn't exceed your actions. Basically, if you say “I’m going to make you come until you meow,” well... It’s better to actually make them come and meow in the end, or risk being seen as... all talk!
