Focus on libido: Baûbo’s sex interview

Baûbo is proud to present the first interview with sexologist Claire Alquier , where we discuss together without taboo all the subjects of sexuality that interest us... and worry us.
Chapter 1 of this sexology session like no other where we try to define this libido which sometimes makes life difficult for us.

What is libido, anyway?
We always hear about it, but how do we define it?

Claire Alquier: Libido is a catch-all term, associated with sexual desire, which itself is a… rather broad term! Let’s say that it is a search for pleasure and more specifically sexual pleasure, and desire.

Libido is also a mobile, flowing energy of life. It is an energy that focuses on sexual life. It is especially not linear… Contrary to what we think, it is not something that we have , or that we do not have !

Can libido be worked on?
Can we strengthen a libido that is considered weak, for example?

The first sexual organ is the brain. The brain and the body are full of resources and treasures. So we must first ask ourselves questions rather than force ourselves. The question of Sexual wellness is a holistic issue of self-love and confidence.

What can I do to feel better, to take care of my body, of myself? It is not obligatory to ask yourself all these questions, but it is already an advantage in the reconquest of your desire to prioritize yourself, to listen to yourself, to reconnect.

Because libido or desire is an entire system, or rather multiple systems that coexist and intersect: work, health, general morale, the seasons, natural and/or chemical hormonal variations, relationships, life... In a fluctuating and multifactorial world too!

When we're feeling down, we sometimes say to ourselves: Everyone else has desire, except me!

We absolutely must get rid of this misconception!
Desire is fluctuating, capricious, subject to various influences so you have to take it easy! Leave yourself alone, because others are no better at it, not all of them, everyone struggles more or less with this notion, at some point.

How to reconnect with your libido?

This is a question that is rather addressed on a case-by-case basis… But there are also general avenues to explore. First, ask yourself a few questions: where am I in my life? What is taking up space? What is making me suffer? How can I improve my general balance? You have to identify the disorder, the dysfunction, and (re)balance yourself.
Following pain during intercourse, intercourse that has become painful for x or y reasons, hormonal changes… The desire diminishes. We don’t want to go or no longer want to go. And that’s normal! Also, the object of desire, the partner, must adapt to our reality…

Did you like it? More in the next interview with Claire Alquier.
Don’t miss chapter 2, coming soon to baubo.fr:
Feed your libido, our 7 ultra-concrete tips!